Today in
modern families, the contrast contrast of gender roles is becoming more
evident. The article states how the father of his 7-year-old daughter had gone
out to, run errands in [her] ballerina
pajamas she’d slept in." He mentioned how he thought it was an outfit, and
was unable to differentiate her pajamas with the clothes she wears on
a regular basis. This illuminates how the parenting role for the
father contrasts with the mother's. It is not unusual for a father to make this
mistake, however, if a mother were to do this, she would be
considered a horrible mother.
Many mothers invest more in their children than they do in a career. One
mother in the article, however, had the opportunity to further develop her professional
life; it mentioned how she appreciated the opportunity to do this. However, the
contrast to this is the father's loss of ego in the relationship. Many mothers
find fulfillment in taking care of their kids, while fathers find the
same fulfillment in their career. It is important that both roles are
seen as equally important, because each role is essential in its own way.
An interesting aspect of this article was how one mother, Kelly, mentioned
how she, "made sure to recognize her husband’s contribution." It is
important for both the mother and the father to recognize the work they do, no
matter what is is. Whether a father works in a career or is taking care of the
children, he is still contributing to the family. Compared to a nuclear family, modern
families can be just as effective if both roles are appreciated. It does not
matter the role of the parent; all that matters is that they are investing
themselves in the family and engage in different aspect of what will benefit
and help the family thrive.
I like that you note, "It is not unusual for a father to make this mistake, however, if a mother were to do this, she would be considered a horrible mother." I think this idea of double standards of parenting needs to be changed. What matters at the end of the day is that a parent loves and cares for their children- no matter how or who does which 'job'.
ReplyDeleteI like your point about how in the article it talks about the success of one mother's career means the father's loss of ego. It's so crazy to think that this stigma behind a working mother has still not gone away. Society makes women feel bad for wanting to continue to pursue their dreams while raising kids. We need to change this stigma!
ReplyDeleteI like your point about how in the article it talks about the success of one mother's career means the father's loss of ego. It's so crazy to think that this stigma behind a working mother has still not gone away. Society makes women feel bad for wanting to continue to pursue their dreams while raising kids. We need to change this stigma!
ReplyDeleteI really like how you said that it does not matter the role of the parent as long as they are investing themselves in the family, and are contributing in different ways which will overall, benefit the family as a whole. Even though the term ‘nuclear’ family explicitly states that there is a mother who stays at home, does household chores, and takes care of the two children, and a father whose role is to work, and bring in the paychecks, I do not believe that there is anything wrong with this statement; however, it should not be enforced. If the family as a whole agrees upon the father working, and the mother doing the household chores, then that is that specific family’s plan, and ultimately their choice. Society should not force them to live like this is they do not want to. No matter how a family is ran, it should be discussed, and certain ground rules may need to be set.
ReplyDeleteI appreciated what you said about how modern families can be just as successful as nuclear families as long as both roles are tended to. I think the idea of a nuclear family has gotten people too focused on the father's job and the mother's job rather than the ultimate job, raising the children. As long as all the needs of the child are being tended to and everyone is happy, who does what doesn't really matter.
ReplyDeleteMy dad was a stay at home dad and I can also relate to growing up with a dad taking on a mother like role. I agree that we are easier on dads for making mistakes with children. This is a great point and something that needs to be changed in our gendered society.
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